Naptime

By Jessica Del Llano

Who doesn’t love a nap?  I’d take a nap every single day if I could.  And these beautiful little children we bring into the world actually get that chance, and what do they do with it?  They WASTE it!

My 2 ½ year old daughter, Sara, has begun resisting naptime more and more.  Over the month of December, my husband and I both worked more/longer hours.  Various family members came and went, stepping up to watch Sara (for which we are eternally grateful).  However, the lack of consistency and routine took its toll on Sara, and even now that our schedules are back to normal, we can’t seem to get back to a nap routine.

I used to be able to count on 2-3 hours to myself in the middle of every day, Whether I was hitting the treadmill, cleaning house, reading, having a nice long uninterrupted phone chat with a friend, vegging out in front of the TV, or taking a nap myself, I had come to rely on that all-important “me time.” Having no break all day until she goes to bed does not work for me.

When she first started putting up a fight at naptime, I compromised with “quiet time” on the couch watching her favorite TV show. Dedicated time to get her to slow down and recharge her batteries.  But Sara doesn’t like to sit still very long.  Soon she’d be back at play, and I was being beckoned,

“Mama, come play with me!”

That wasn’t going to work if I was going to get anything done. One afternoon I drove around for over 45 minutes because she had fallen asleep in the car.  That was an expensive nap considering gas prices, but worth it at the time.

A quick survey of my mom friends told me there’s no cut-and-dry age when children stop napping.  Some stopped before age 2, others are 4 years old and still nap most days.  I’m so afraid of ending up in the early-ending nap group, mostly because Sara really does need a nap.  On the days when she doesn’t take one, let’s just say evenings are not exactly pleasant in our house, and they continue to deteriorate the closer we get to bedtime.  She misbehaves and ends up in time-out more on no-nap days.  There are definitely more tears.

And I know my fuse is shorter because I haven’t had a break all day.

I need that time just as much as she does.  But when she’s slept for at least 90 minutes mid-day, she’s such a sweetheart that I’ve considered keeping her up past her bedtime just to hang out with her more.  It’s that much of a difference in her mood.

So I’m not giving up on the prospect of a daily nap. In the past week I’ve become the nap enforcer.  OK, I can’t force her to sleep.  But she’s in her crib, lights out, for 60-90 minutes a day whether she likes it or not.  If she falls asleep, that’s awesome.  If not, this dedicated time to relax seems to be enough to ensure a pleasant remainder of the day for all.

What age did your child stop napping consistently?  Do you have dedicated “quiet time”?

‘Happy’ Birthday Party Locations

By Kristen Eriksen

A friend of mine asked me about suggestions for childrens’ birthday party locations, and, more specifically, what I thought about Chuck E. Cheese. I have not been there in years, and the twins don’t know what it is.

Honestly, I hope it stays that way for a while!

No horror stories here, but overall it’s just too noisy, chaotic and expensive for my taste.  We’ve had family birthday parties for the twins at home so far, but I think this will be the year to branch out for my soon-to-be 5-year-olds in June!

In December, our family went to our first not-at-home birthday party.  It was for a 3-year-old family friend at “Jump On In” in Lowell. We had never been there, and I was nervous. My kids are little, and I had a harrowing day at another children’s gym place before (another post to come…..).  I gotta tell you, this place was great!  We divided play time between two big rooms with bouncy houses, slides and climbing structures. Fearless Ben just started going. Charlotte was more cautious, and needed her mom’s hand to give her confidence. Now, I am 5’ 10”, so it is not easy for me to fit in climbing structures built for kids!  But I did!  The day ended with pizza, cake and ice cream. The place was very well staffed, and the timing (about 2 hours) was perfect.

Last week, I brought Ben to a party at Plaster Funtime. The invite said that they would prefer that you drop off, but parents could stay if you don’t interfere with the “artwork.” I was skeptical, since I knew this mom invited 20 kids, and I did not intend to just drop him off.  I got to have coffee and chat with some of the moms! Melissa, the staff member who ran this show in Chelmsford, was great at handling these 4 to 6-year-old kids. She doesn’t mess around. I still would not have wanted to leave, but she was like a little, fun, silly drill sergeant! She kept all the children in line, and on task. Again, we ended with pizza, and cake.

This week, Charlotte has been invited to a birthday party at the Acton Children’s Museum. I love this place, anyway, so I see a fun time in our future there.

So, two fun birthday parties down, and who knows how many more to go. I just pray that we don’t have to enter the world of Chuck E. Cheese too soon!

Bidding Adieu

By Dawn Thompson

My Grandmother and her siblings grew up in one of the first foster care systems in Massachusetts. Although she was grateful for food and shelter, she was always sad to have never been adopted. She wanted nothing more than to belong to a family. She couldn’t change the past, but she did put her heart and soul into raising her own family.

She wasn’t always right, but she always did what she thought was right- and that’s what’s important. She invested her life in our future, gave us gifts beyond value and left behind a treasured legacy.

In her will, one of the things she left me was her big brother, Lee, a veteran sailor who I’d been helping her with for almost 20 years. Shortly after she passed, I filed for custody of him. The court date landed on her birthday, which was incredibly devine!

Sadly, in the past few months his cancer came back and his health has declined. So much so that he is preparing for his journey. While getting his care and comfort in order, I got notice that the guardianship was finalized. Although I was happy for him that it happened in his lifetime, I was also very sad. It’s not easy letting go of a loved one but it does help to know he has a special angel waiting for him on the other side. ♥

I arrived at the nursing home last night three minutes after he passed. As I sat in the car waitng for my cousin Steve, I thought of how I would say good bye to one of my oldest and dearest friends, my great uncle Lee. I wiped my eyes, looked in the rear view mirror and noticed my grandmother’s rosary hanging from it. I realized there are no words! We went in, bid him goodbye and wrapped his beloved sister’s cross around his hands. Good night uncle, see you in Heaven!

Some people make the world a better place just by being in it.

Leonell A. Maurice; July 17, 1925 - January 22, 2012

Homemade vs. Store-Bought Baby Food

By Heddi Nieuwsma

My 7-month old is eating solid foods now, and I’ve mostly been feeding him homemade baby food. With my first son however, we primarily served store-bought food. About the time we introduced solids, I was heading back to work and didn’t feel like I had the time or energy to make it myself. As he got older we used a food mill to convert our regular meals to a finer texture, but for those early months we used store-bought food.

This second time around, I enjoy making and serving homemade baby food. We still supplement with store-bought foods because of their convenience, but I often prefer the homemade stuff. Even though grocery stores offer many different kinds of baby food, including organic options, my second son is eating a larger variety of foods—including cauliflower, parsnips and zucchini—at an earlier age than his older brother.

Both of my sons around six-months old and starting solid foods.

Is homemade baby food that much cheaper than store-bought food?
Does homemade baby food really taste any better than store-bought food?

For both these questions, I think the answer is, “it depends.”

  • Cost: Yes, the cost to purchase a bag of sweet potatoes is certainly cheaper considering the number of servings you can prepare. At the same time, you have to consider the time needed for preparing, steaming and pureeing. Store-bought food is certainly more convenient, and especially easier when away from home.
  • Taste: In my opinion, there are some foods where store-bought doesn’t differ that much from the homemade versions (e.g., sweet potatoes). Although, I do think a generic store-bought “squash” doesn’t taste as good as my homemade butternut squash, for example.

Homemade cauliflower, butternut squash and broccoli purees.

Overall, I believe whichever option you choose for your baby is the right decision, whether store-bought food, homemade purees or both. As long as your baby is healthy and getting the nutrients/vitamins they need, does it really matter? I think it’s really about parents’ personal preferences and needs and what their babies are willing to eat!

Homemade Baby Food Resources

The links below are for resources I’ve found to be helpful. If you have additional info or advice to share, please leave a comment below.

Food safety

Introducing solid foods

Recipes

A Step Back into the Middle Ages

By Sue Anganes

One way that we ended 2011 and started 2012 was with a family membership to the Higgins Armory in Worcester, MA. The museum is less than an hour away from Lowell, and unlike the museums in Boston, you do not have to fight traffic to get there.

The museum was once the private collection of  John Woodman Higgins, a wealthy industrialist, who actually built a five story castle-like structure to display his armor and weapon collection. The collection became open to the public in 1931. Housing one of the few significant collections of knightly armor outside of Europe, the museum is an overlooked treasure right at our back door.

There is a newly renovated interactive Castle Quest room where kids can dress in Renaissance costumes, try their strength at archery, try on helmets, play games and build their own castles out of giant blocks. Anyone who has ever loved knights and damsels in distress would love to roam the Great Hall and be taken back in time. There are daily weapon demonstrations, as well as story hours, special exhibits, summer programs and various crafts.

The museum is fully accessible with parking at the front door. My New Year’s resolution for 2012 is to get back to the Higgins Armory a few more times and get my money’s worth for my yearly membership!

I wish you all a Happy and Healthy New Year.


The Dreaded New Year’s Resolution

By Jessica Del Llano

Ah yes, the dreaded New Year’s Resolution.

For the first time last year, I made an actual list of the things I hoped to accomplish in the new year.  I’m sorry to say only two of them came to fruition by year’s end, but in the spirit of “try, try again,” I’ve re-resolved myself.  They were worthy goals, and I’ve got a good feeling about 2012.

This year I hope to complete a 10K race and another 5K.  I also want to make more effort to schedule “date nights” with my husband, and have more quality time with my friends.  Being a good and present mom has come at the expense of my social life, and I do miss my friends.  Also, talking about something other than Max & Ruby would be nice for a change (even though my mom friends and I have had spirited discussions about Nina’s pajamas on the Good Night Show).

My recipe for failure with resolutions has always been when I get too specific, i.e. setting finish time goals on races, or saying,

“I will do this at least [this many] times.”

It needs to be more about accomplishing something however I may, rather than setting arbitrary limits or minimums for myself. Aren’t New Years Resolution supposed to be about creating positive change in our lives?

If you accomplish a goal, that’s positive change.  It doesn’t need to be more specific than that.

Wishing you all a healthy and happy 2012!


Time is Not On My Side

By Amy Dienta

The longer I’m the mom of two kids, the harder it seems to get anywhere on time with everything we need. My oldest son has soccer practice, cello lessons and other after school programs. I’m lucky if we get to these on time with our cello and music book, or with the soccer ball.

How do other moms accomplish this? Is there some kind of super organizer I need to get? Or start getting ready three hours early? Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated!

Staying Fit, Post-Pregnancy

By Heddi Nieuwsma

First week of 2012, and I’m trying to keep my New Year’s resolution to shed the final baby weight and get back in shape. Here are my favorite options for workouts:

  • Running in my neighborhood and along the Merrimack River
  • Using the treadmill or elliptical machine at the gym
  • Exercising with Tracy Anderson’s Post Pregnancy Workout: I recommend borrowing the DVD from your local library and trying it out for free.
  • Doing anything outside with my family, such as walking/hiking, snowshoeing, or cross country skiing (if it ever snows!).

Hiking in Colorado, October 2011

These days, I find it hard to squeeze in a workout. Usually, I end up exercising in the early morning or after the kids are in bed. Unfortunately, this means my energy level is usually at its lowest!

Please comment below:

How have other new moms lost the baby weight? How do you find time to exercise? And, what workout recommendations do you have for parents in the Merrimack Valley? For example, Lowell General Hospital offers several exercise classes, including Zumba and yoga. I haven’t tried any yet, but they look great.

How to Feed a Hungry Monster

By Dawn Thompson

How to feed a hungry monster (or two, or three)!

Ever since Dylan was born, he was always hungry.  Eating every half hour to 45 minutes seemed like a lot for a nursing mom, but it didn’t seem excessive for him since he was extra small. He began solid foods at nine months in addition to nursing and this just made him cranky and added to his tummy troubles. At 18 months Dylan was in severe failure to thrive and was seen at Tufts Floating Hospital for Children in Boston. To our shcok and surprise, he was diagnosed with Neurofibromatosis. During our 10-day stay, he underwent multiple tests and proceedures for his FTT.

He was also found to have an insufficiant pancreas. He does not absorb fat and enzymes properly, thus resulting in a kid who is ALWAYS hungry or, as we call him, our little “Hungry Monster.” He was put on an extra calorie diet and enzymes. The biggest challenge has been keeping up with a PICKY EATER who eats all day long. He is also sensitive to certain smells and textures. This means that we need to be creative, or else he’d eat just chicken wings and ravioli every hour or so!

Growing up in a family of six I was used to cooking for a large family. Now that our older kids are in college, we are down to preparing BIG meals for one little kid. This can be time consuming and wasteful, as we have learned in the past.

FREEZE!

I still cook for a family of six, but separate the portions into six servings and freeze them in snack size zip locks. I have tried small containers and find the baggies keep the food frost free, freeze flat and are microwavable and washable too!

Ideas for Leftovers

Hamburger or Meatloaf: scramble with chili beans and freeze.  Can be served alone, on a roll, or with a hot dog and cheese.

Chicken or Turkey: save some juice, add a bit of flour and a little salt and pepper to make gravy. Cut up the meat, stir in, let cool and freeze. Serve with bread or microwave a half  of potato and serve with uncooked carrots. Also great to mix with broth and fresh veggies, rice or noodles for quick homemade soups.

Steak: cube with cheese and freeze for a chunky cheese steak. Chop and add a little BBQ sauce and freeze alone.  Serve with rice and veggie, potato, over bread or over noodles.

Ham: great frozen alone in chunks or slices and in small quantities. Can be served with eggs, potatos, added to salad or even mixed with macaroni and cheese.

Cookie Dough: I make a full batch, seperate it into three, and freeze two.

Dinner Rolls: most come in nine or more.  We freeze six in two seperate packs of three as soon as they cool.

Frozen food is convenient and, no wonder, very popular. We find preparing it ourselves is much more economical, healthier and a lot easier than we thought. Best of all, having all this yummy food on hand helps keeps our Hungry Monster at bay! He can choose one of each item every three days even if it’s his favorite, or else we’d be stuck with 20 servings of whatever he likes LEAST in the end, and trust me, it happens.

Happy Chomping!

Elf Down! Someone Call 911

By Meredith McKay

Some of you have found great luck with using the magical Elf on the Shelf to keep your children on their best behavior. I on the other hand, have not.

The other night, my usually well behaved 3 1/3 year old daughter, Mia, was having a temper tantrum of gigantic proportions. You know the ones when your child is overtired, gets upset by everything and anything, follows you around the house and throws herself on every dirty or clean floor in your house while not listening to a word you say.

At this point I had enough and placed Mia in timeout (the staircase in our living room). As she slid down the stairs on her back in hysterics, I spotted “Cheeky Francis,” the name of our Elf on the Shelf. Quickly I picked up the shifty-eyed elf and held him in front of Mia and said,

“I hope Cheeky Francis doesn’t tell Santa about your tantrum!”

As quick as a wink, Mia grabbed Cheeky from me and tore his cute, sewn together little hands apart and threw him down the stairs. I stared in awe at Cheeky’s lifeless body at the bottom of the stairs and couldn’t help but giggle inside.

Elf down!

I picked up our still smiling elf and asked, “Are you okay?” to show Mia my concern for her destructive Incredible Hulk-like behavior.

She yelled, “Mama, Put him back down, Put him back down!”

It was then that I realized this infamous elf doesn’t hold any power against my precious yet precocious girl.

About a half hour later, Mia apologized to me and asked in her sweetest voice if I would bring Cheeky Francis to the hospital to be fixed. I panicked inside because I don’t own a sewing kit or even a needle and thread, but still I said, “Yes.”

So that evening, as I regretted never being a Girl Scout, I did what any unprepared Mom would do: I carefully wrapped Cheeky Francis’ hands together with some gauze and put him high up in our Christmas Tree.

I will be sure to not put our Elf on the Shelf in low places anymore!

If you have the Elf on the Shelf, does his magic work on your children and what is he named?

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